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The luck It can be represented in different ways, which makes the definition more difficult. The bad luckOn the contrary, it’s fairly easy to identify: you know when you see it, and you definitely know when it caught you in its claws.
The Misfortune is fatal to the people around you, something like a smoker’s smoke. The famous study Terman from Standford University has followed test subjects’ lives for eight decades and found that surrounding unfortunate people is associated with health problems and shorter life expectancy.
Happiness has little to do with the circumstances of your existence. University of Illinois research found that the people who earn the most (over $ 10 million a year) are only slightly happier than the people who work for them.
Living circumstances have less of an impact on happiness as many things are under your control and are a product of your habits and the way you see life. University of California psychologists discovered that circumstances and genetics only determine 50% of a person’s happiness. The rest is up to you.
When people are not happy, it is more difficult to be with them, not to mention working with them. Misfortune drives people away and creates a vicious cycle that prevents you from realizing your full potential.
Bad luck can surprise you. Much of your happiness depends on your habits (physical and thinking), which you need to monitor closely to avoid falling into the abyss.
Some habits lead to more misfortune than others. You have to be careful so that they don’t become part of you.
1. Wait for the future
The living saying “I’ll be happy if …” is one of the most common misfortune habits. It doesn’t matter how you get to that point in the future (a raise, a promotion, a new relationship) because the circumstances are too stressed. Don’t spend your time waiting for something we already know won’t change your view of life. Better concentrate on being happy in the here and now, because there are no guarantees for the future.
2. Invest a lot of time and effort to buy “things”
People living in extreme poverty increase their happiness as their income increases, but the feeling stabilizes as soon as they reach $ 20,000 a year. There are oceans of studies showing that material goods are out of luck. If you get used to tracking things, you will be unhappy because once you receive them, you will find that you have sacrificed really valuable things like family, friends and hobbies.
3. Always be at home
If you feel unhappy, dodging people is very tempting. This can be a big mistake because socializing, even if you don’t like it very much, can increase your habit. We all have these days when we just put the covers on and don’t want to speak to anyone. However, it is important to note that the moment this practice becomes a trend, you begin to affect your health. When you realize when misfortune makes you anti-social, you will try to break out of the shell.
4. See yourself as the eternal victim
Unhappy people tend to work in a “standard” state where life is difficult and out of their control. In other words, they think, “It will go wrong for me and there is nothing I can do to avoid it.” The problem with this philosophy is that it creates feelings of helplessness and people who feel that way usually don’t try to improve their circumstances. We all have the right to feel bad from time to time, but you cannot allow a bad day to change your view of life. You are not the only person who sometimes makes it bad, and you are in control of your life for as long as you want.
Unhappy people tend to operate in a state of “insolvency” in which life is difficult and beyond their control / Image: Francisco Moreno on Unsplash
Nothing fuels misfortune as much as pessimism. The problem with this attitude, which doesn’t just affect your mood, is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you expect bad things, bad things will happen to you. Pessimistic thoughts are difficult to shake until you realize how illogical they are. Force yourself to see the facts and realize that things really aren’t as bad as they seem.
6. Complain about everything
Constant complaints are problematic, as is the attitude that creates them. It is self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking about everything – and therefore thinking about what is wrong – you are reaffirming your negative beliefs. Talking about what’s bothering you may make you feel better, but there’s a fine line between therapeutic venting and discomfort above all else. This behavior not only stirs up misfortune but also alienates others.
7. Take things disproportionately
Bad things happen to everyone. The difference is that happy people see them for what they are: a bump and nothing else on the way, while unhappy people see them as further evidence that the world is against them. A happy person is annoyed when he crashes on the way to work, but keeps an eye on things: “It’s an effort, but at least it wasn’t serious.” On the contrary, someone who is unhappy uses this fact as evidence that their day, week, month, and even life are doomed to fail.
Unhappy people take everything that happens to them as further evidence that the world is against them / Image: Depositphotos.com
8. Ignore the problems
Happy people are responsible for their actions. If you make a mistake, you take responsibility. In contrast, unhappy people see problems and mistakes as threats and try to hide them. Problems tend to increase when ignored. The more you ignore them, the bigger and more unassailable they will look.
9. Don’t improve
Because unhappy people are pessimistic and experience a great lack of control in their lives, they tend to sit around and wait for something to happen to them. Instead of setting goals, learning, and improving, they just “float” and wonder why the negative things don’t change.
10. Try to imitate everyone
Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness. So if you spend comparing yourself to others, it’s time to stop. In one study, most of the subjects said they would not mind making less money only if their colleagues received the same treatment. Be careful with this way of thinking as it really doesn’t make you happier.
In summary …
Changing habits in the name of happiness is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It is also important to know that controlling your happiness automatically makes you happier.