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Have you had those days, or even weeks, when you can't make progress in anything related to your business ? You feel stuck in a kind of paralysis and your internal dialogue begins to sound a bit like this:
“Why can't I fix it all at once?”
“Why bother? It will never be good enough anyway… ”
“Tomorrow I do …”
But you do not. The less productive you are, the less productive you feel and there are more internal criticisms in your head.
You do not need another trick or another productivity app to return to the ring. You are probably experiencing a version of the impostor syndrome, the factor that most affects the productivity of women and that nobody talks about.
The impostor syndrome is a term in vogue, but what relationship does it have with your incredibly long list of earrings? Put simply, imposter syndrome is that feeling that makes you think that you are not good enough or that you are not well qualified enough to do things, regardless of the external evidence of your success and your competitiveness. It is the scary feeling that people think you are a total fraud.
Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes first used this term in 1978, in their report entitled “The impostor phenomenon in successful women: dynamics and therapeutic intervention.” They found that the imposter syndrome was “particularly prevalent and intense among a select sample of extremely successful women.”
Is your productivity being affected by the impostor syndrome? Here are some common signs:
You use all existing excuses
Why haven't you started that new project? You have all the excuses in the world to explain it. You demand yourself an unrealistic standard, I spend too many hours trying to make things perfect or flat do not start doing them. Perfectionism and procasting go hand in hand!
You are stressed and anxious
The pressure to succeed is a much heavier burden than the work itself. The thought of “What happens if I fail?” It paralyzes you and does not allow you to take action. If you don't start doing that project, nobody will realize that you are not good enough.
You doubt your skills and compare yourself with others
Am I really made for this? Did you really want to give me that opportunity? What happens if I disappoint them? How could I do it as well as do so-and-so? Your internal critic can get the best of you when it comes to valuing you.
You focus on the negative
You feel so guilty for not being productive that you treat yourself badly for not being in control of things. Why can't you “be better”? You have a mental list of things you should have done and the weight of not having done them is still too much.
Does any of this sound familiar? If yes, it may be that your lack of productivity has to do with the impostor syndrome. But don't worry, help is on the way!
A recent study on gender differences with respect to impostor syndrome showed that although both men and women live, women tend to make greater efforts to solve it. Take advantage of this natural tendency and you will avoid major problems in your work.
Here we tell you how to overcome the impostor syndrome and become the most productive version of yourself:
Validate the feeling
Recognize what you are feeling and living and realize that it is something completely normal. What would you say to a friend who is going through something like that? You deserve that same empathy.
Take some pressure off
Are there really as many things at stake as you think? You are probably putting more pressure than necessary on your shoulders. When you give yourself permission to fail or say no, you will immediately feel a weight off you.
Separate the facts from the stories
Write all the thoughts that generate stress. Which of these are indisputable facts? What are limiting beliefs? You may find that what is killing your productivity is not a real threat. If you are struggling to differentiate between the facts and the horror stories you tell yourself, ask for an external opinion.
Accept the compliments
Do you have any place where you keep the thank you notes they have given you and the positive testimonials? If not, create one! Give yourself time to read the good things that people say about you and openly accept kind words.
Reprogram your thoughts
Your internal critic certainly has a lot to say. This negative internal dialogue may have unconsciously become your daily mantra. We want your mantra to inspire you, not to throw you away! Write those negative thoughts and paraphrase them in positive mantras. “I will never be as good as Sally” becomes a “I am successful because I do things my way.” The trick here is to make a statement you can believe.
Don't think you're the center of everything
The impostor syndrome has a reflector on you and your insecurities. The secret is that not everything has to do with you. Why are you doing what you do? Focus on the people you are helping and you will realize that your ego is much less important than you think.
As Winston S. Churchill said: “Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision. ” Now that you've done the internal work, it's time to take action. You already know what you have to do. Give a small and imperfect jump.
You may believe that the impostor syndrome will disappear when you reach a certain level of profit or a certain level of success. Unfortunately, that is not usually the case, but quite the opposite. The more things you achieve, the more the impostor syndrome will appear. Rest assured that you don't have to stay long. With this list you are better equipped to get rid of the impostor syndrome whenever it appears.