We tend to think that you need some luck to get started and succeed. A study shows that it is possible to create happiness in all areas of your life. How? Read on and you will find out.
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I will tell you a secret: When I was seven years old and knew that a difficult day would come, I would put on my underwear. Spider-Man. The superhero was my favorite and it gave me a strange feeling of certainty that allowed me to face any difficulty. It didn’t matter if it was Tuesday (sports day) when I met him bully from the classroom or if I hadn’t studied for the exam: when I was wearing my underpants The amazing Spider-Man I felt that luck was on my side.
And my little ritual worked. At least he believed it.
Many years later, on various job boards, I heard the top sales manager of the team keep saying the same sentence: “the luck it is distributed at six in the morning ”. She didn’t talk about underwear, amulets, or cabals. He simply referred to the power we all have to create our own happiness through work.
When we hear that someone has been successful, we usually associate their story with chance, with chance, or with real sparks of happiness that can illuminate a person’s life forever. We rarely stop thinking about what’s behind this moment. We see neither the effort nor the journey. We see neither the doubts nor the stumbling blocks. We don’t see all the glow that a person got up before it was six in the morning …
Build a happy reality
There are subjects that life smiles at. Everything seems to be going well. They are the lucky ones in the world who are always successful. There are others who fight. His days are clouded, his plans are shortened, his projects fade. These unfortunates are unlucky and seem doomed to live with them until the end of their days.
1993 the English psychologist Richard Wiseman He tried to find out what was really going on with these two groups of individuals. What was the difference? Why did one always seem to be in the right place at the right time and the other not?
Wiseman placed advertisements in various newspapers and was able to recruit 400 people between the ages of 18 and 84. Half of them described themselves as “happy” and argued that they were fulfilling their dreams; The others said they were always unlucky and said things rarely went the way they wanted to.
The researcher spoke to them for years, interviewed them, asked them to keep a diary every day, and subjected them to various tests and experiments. And although he could never explain the chance of human existence, he found some patterns of thought and behavior that seemed to directly affect the happiness of individuals …
The first thing Wiseman did was ask individuals to count the number of photos printed on the pages of a newspaper. On average, the unfortunate group took two minutes to complete the task, while the lucky ones did it in a matter of seconds. The reason? On the second page of the newspaper was a message that read, “Stop counting. This newspaper contains 43 photos. “The text was half flat and even then only those who said they were lucky could see it.
Through various personality tests, Wiseman found that the unfortunate group was more afraid than the happy group. Fear makes it harder for a person to perceive things that are not obvious. The researcher concluded that people who say they are out of luck are usually concerned about one thing and this does not allow them to see everything else. What you no longer see can be advertisements in the newspaper … or great opportunities that could change your life. People who say they are lucky are usually more relaxed and open. This helps them perceive everything around them, not just what they were looking for.
Wiseman observed the behavior of both groups at social events. The unfortunate came to the meetings with a clear idea of who they would be sitting with, who they would talk to and who they would live with, while the happy ones would be more relaxed and ready to sit down and talk to whoever. although they didn’t know him.
The secret of happiness in three easy steps
With the results of his studies, Richard Wiseman tried to develop a recipe to win happiness that still seems to be valid today. These are the behaviors the researcher suggests to attract happiness in life and business:
- Keep your mind (and your eyes) open. The obsession with achieving the goal you set yourself a long time ago may result in you no longer seeing what is around you. You may have a huge ad in front of you asking you to stop counting photos, look back, and realize that the world contains much more than what is overwhelming you today. Give space to your fears, look up and dare to see the world from another place.
- See the positive side of things. Every tragedy brings with it an opportunity. Digging into what you have not achieved, what has not come out, the expectation that has not been met, threatens to cloud your whole life not just for a day. Give yourself time to see what you have accomplished, who you are, and how you came to this day alive. Grasp the positive and strive to give up negative thoughts. Never let tragedy define you.
- Do something extraordinary (at least) once a week. Routine gives us security. Wake up at the same time. Have the same breakfast as yesterday. Take the same route to the office. Ask for the same coffee. Routine gives us security but also limits us. Break it and let opportunities and new people get closer to your life. You do not know what they will bring you, but it is likely that with these new activities I have also got the fortune that you do not think existed.
You already know it: Dare to experiment, break the routine, redefine yourself, be different, free yourself from what you’ve caught. Meet, chat and never let fear guide you.
Apparently that’s what happy people do every day of their lives. So get up at six in the morning … or at nine … or at ten with the wisdom that happiness is not distributed: you create it with your way of existing.