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It is inevitable that you will hit People you disagree with. There are people you instantly connect with and others who you don’t care if they’re still in your life or not. And there is also this select group of People who flatly do not tolerate.
How do I deal with someone who is difficult, rude, or just plain annoying? Well, it helps a bit to remind yourself that you’re not perfect either. Remember that whatever you think of this person, someone else may be thinking of you. After all, we are human and we all have flaws.
You can usually avoid people you don’t like. However, at some point you have to work with someone you don’t like. It might be complicated, but you can work with anyone if you remember certain things. Using these tips, you may find that you can learn things even if you still don’t like that person. They can even help you see things from a different perspective.
Successful people understand that when you limit the people you work with, you are limiting yourself. Use these 11 strategies to empower yourself so you can deal with anyone, even the toughest of people.
1. Accept that nobody likes everyone
The reality is that not everyone we meet is going to like us. The first step in dealing with a difficult person is to accept that there are people you won’t love, and that’s fine.
The fact that you don’t like them doesn’t make you a bad person, nor does it make that person generally bad or uncomfortable. But we all have to find a way to work together. Realizing that you have no chemistry with this person without judging who is right or wrong can provoke some negative emotions that hinder relationships that are already difficult to manage.
2. The Mindfulness is the antidote for poisonous people
Dealing with someone we don’t like can negatively affect our emotions. A toxic person can drive you crazy, but only if you allow it. Remember that only you have power over your state of mind. So don’t let a negative or toxic person affect your head.
This doesn’t mean that you should ignore this person or how they make you feel. Realize that your emotions, such as irritation or impatience, are building up. If someone makes you angry, give yourself a chance to feel that emotion and then let go of it. Remember, there are times when it is best to smile and say yes. We don’t always have to get involved in discussions that are not worthwhile.
3. Touch kills the temperament
Choose touch over temper. Learn to cultivate a diplomatic smile. This is a prerequisite for learning to treat all people with courtesy and diplomacy. It doesn’t mean that you have to agree with someone you don’t like or that you have to accept what they say. You just need to maintain a constant level of propriety when interacting with him.
Be gentle on the person but tough on the problem. This means that instead of attacking on a personal level, you should focus on the issues that need fixing. When you learn to do this consistently, you will always be perceived as professional and positive, which will give you a plus in all situations.
4. Whatever they wanted to say, don’t take it personally
Often times, what people do for them, not for you. They may be reacting to their own circumstances and it just happened that you met them. Try to broaden your perspective on the situation as an open perspective can reduce misunderstandings.
You can also be proactive when it comes to dealing with someone you know is driving you out of your box. Think about how you can react calmly and confidently. Have a clear picture of how you will react. This can help you avoid the ping pong effect, where you will react worse than them and they will react even worse. Remember that all situations concern both the person you are communicating with and the problem they are talking about. Focus on the problem, not the person.
5. Be a better person or sink with them
It is very easy to react emotionally to a toxic person, especially if you find their behavior ridiculous or frustrating. But if you stay on their level and get involved with their arguments, you may be the one to get the troublemaker label
Don’t let your feelings become the worst of you or let their problems consume you. Remember, you don’t have to react to their chaos. You can choose to be a better person by focusing on the facts and providing rational answers. If necessary, point out specific issues, but always do so diplomatically.
6. Express your feelings calmly
Sometimes it’s the way we communicate that gives us problems. If someone’s behavior and communication is bothering you, it may be time to have an honest conversation about them. The key is to do it calmly, confidently, and avoid confrontation.
Non-accusatory language involves making sentences that begin with “I” in order to achieve the goal of clearly and non-aggressively expressing your feelings and the role the other plays in them, without directly blaming them. One formula you can use is, “When you _______, I feel like ______. Please change this to _______ in the future. “
Be as specific as you can when it comes to expressing behavior that is bothering you and what you want the other person to do to change it. And once you have said it, you should be open to their feedback.
7. Choose your battles
Not all discussions are worth your time and attention. There are times when dealing with an annoying person is like thinking about a child who causes a tantrum: you don’t deserve your energy. Ask yourself if you really want to have an argument about something you can turn around. The bottom line is is it worth the effort? Do you have more to lose than to gain?
Think about whether the problem is situational. In that case, time can help you resolve it. And there are times when a difficult person is helping us or benefiting us in some other way. You may be better off tolerating their idiosyncrasies if they help you more than they bother you.
8. Borders are healthy
Wouldn’t it be amazing to be able to build a barrier that keeps that annoying partner away? A physical barrier may not be feasible, but you can set limits and decide when and how to spend time with it. Give yourself a space to be alone so that this person doesn’t overwhelm you too much.
Separate yourself emotionally and physically separate yourself from situations that you know can lead to negative arguments. When you know you are in an emotionally charged situation, take a deep breath and calm your mind before entering.
9. Connect with people who think like you
Don’t go to war alone, find people who support you. Trying to beat a difficult person or a septic relationship on your own can backfire because it’s so hard to be objective when you’re so involved.
Find people who think like you and whom you can trust to make you feel supportive and less alone. They can bring objectivity to the situation and help you find ways to deal with this difficult person. There will be times when you just want to get the most out of it and feel like someone is listening to you. Once we feel validated, we can move on. Knowing that your friends are supportive gives you the resilience and strength to deal with almost any situation.
10. Learn how to deal with annoying people.
If someone is always teasing you and focusing on your mistakes, you can balance the performance dynamics by giving them a little squeeze to reduce their negative behavior. Don’t be defensive if someone points at you or becomes aggressive with you as it will only give them more strength. Better turn the script over and put it in the spotlight. The best way to neutralize their influence is to ask constructive and demonstrative questions.
If he tries to deny or minimize your work, ask him for very specific and detailed criticism, ask him if he has made his expectations clear and if he is disrespectful or you feel harassed, say so. Let them know that you expect to be treated with the same courtesy that you use when dealing with situations.
11. Your happiness is in your hands
Never let a toxic person limit your happiness or control your source of complacency. Don’t let negative comments settle on your system or let someone else’s opinion overshadow your day. Stop looking for others to acknowledge or acknowledge your achievements. Look for that confirmation within yourself.
Give yourself a moment to reflect, because maybe what you don’t like about another person is something you struggle with internally as well. Understanding where your frustration is coming from takes power away from the other. And remember that you are in control of yourself and your thoughts. Stop comparing yourself to others and always remember that your worth is in you.