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s are not afraid of failure … afraid of remorse

April 1, 2020

“I would have liked to work more,” said no one on his deathbed.

The opinions expressed by collaborators are personal.

Before you judge yourself, or someone else, about what you failed to do today, try to see the whole picture. Take a moment (you can even close your eyes) to reflect on what you are doing and why it is important that you finish it. Now… keep reading.

s are not afraid of failure … afraid of remorses are not afraid of failure … afraid of remorse

“I would have liked to work more,” said no one on his deathbed.

I know it is difficult to think of a time that (hopefully) is very far from us. No one wants to think about dying! So let's go back a little … Open your calendar and come back 90 days. And ask yourself: “What would I have liked to spend a little more time on?” That question will leave you thinking – reflecting, actually – on what you should be doing tonight.

Repentance takes its toll on all of us, not only in our hearts, but also in our souls. When we disappoint someone, when we do less than we know we could have done, or when we are physically or emotionally absent, remorse takes its toll. Some regrets we can forget in a moment, others remain for life.

Bronnie Ware wrote The 5 Most Common Regrets of People Who Are Dying – a life transformed by those who leave us after spending several years caring for people on their deathbed. As you read each one, reflect on how you feel about it right now. How do you feel about your work? About your life? About your relationships?

  1. I wish I had had the courage to live life by being true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
  3. I wish I had had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had kept in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish I had allowed myself to be happy.

Sad, right? It is a difficult pill to swallow.

When we look at remorse in depth we usually connect it with the idea of ​​being stuck. Stuck in our emotions, stuck in our routine, stuck in mediocrity. Being stuck is not always a bad thing, but if we are not moving forward, where are we moving to? Don't settle for staying static. Move on. It grows. Find what drives you.

People often say that the projects they feel stuck in are personal in nature. They want to do something creative like write a book or focus on a hobby like photography or art, but these projects are often relegated to the “nonessential” category and rarely done. However, these projects are essential to the core of happiness and well-being and are the essence of the regrets we described above. These projects are the expression of the true and authentic personality of the people.

When we feel stuck is when we realize that these projects do not have a delivery date and that most of the time they do not bring a financial reward with them. For these reasons, personal and self-expression projects are not a priority, which will lead us to drown in unhappiness and a life of repentance.

Don't let the weight of regrets pull you down today. Live in freedom, looking for creativity, personal expression and authenticity. It's okay to put yourself on the priority list once in a while. Your happiness and well-being are worth it. You're worth it.

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