If you are a father or mother and you are doing home offices, in quarantine you must prioritize health, be flexible and give your children techniques to be happier.
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This Monday, the Government of Mexico declared a health emergency due to COVID-19 , with 1,094 positive cases and 28 deaths . If so, it was ordered to suspend non-essential activities. At this time, some families have been in voluntary isolation for more than two weeks and parents are trying to fulfill all their roles as entrepreneurs, responsible citizens and parents.
Health authorities are asking that social isolation be maintained until April 30, 1 more month, how to survive this difficult month at home? Verónica Gutiérrez, Co-Founder and Director of Parenting Global , an international community of parents, experts and specialists in parenting committed to helping raise conscious and full parents, ensures that using all the roles we have in one space represents a challenge so we must create a strategy to make this work, without affecting roles. “People who like to start are very self-demanding and have very clear goals. So the first tip is: accept that not everything will be perfect . ”
1. If the family is healthy, everything will be easier
“If you know they are fine, that will keep you calm,” says Veronica. For this reason, he recommends that children take clear hygiene habits: wash their hands frequently, cover their elbows when sneezing or coughing. To achieve this, you have to speak to the children with all honesty about what is happening. “Explain that not going out is a form of protection for grandparents, relatives and uncles.”
2. Create an individual plan and with your family
“Based on your goals, establish base routines and try to be organized,” explains Veronica. The schedules and routines must be individual, but also contemplate moments of being together as a family. “When you have very young children you can take advantage of the nap times to move forward,” he explains.
3. Team is better
In Mexico, women spend 39 hours a week on domestic and care work, while men spend 14 hours a week. It is time to redistribute that burden! That is why it is important, says Veronica, that if the two work, define schedules in which each one goes to work, while one works the other can take care of the children.
Check that they can meet the minimum necessary for a successful home office: a quiet space to work and focus, avoid the use of social networks, choose specific hours.
4. Don't expect perfection
The first enemy of this contingency will be perfectionism because it will be the new reality that sets the rules and these will also vary. So Veronica recommends that we be very flexible. “Define what is not negotiable, but you will have to accept things like that the type of food will not always be the healthiest or the screen time your children have will be a little longer,” he says. “Flow and search for apps and pages so that your children continue learning.”
5. Get close to yours at home and outside with technology
Social distancing does not mean emotional distancing. “It is time to take advantage and strengthen the family bond within the home. It is a unique opportunity to be together for a long time and create new games. If we see this whole situation with regret, the little ones will feel it. ” At the same time, use technology to procure friends, extended family, and seniors. ”
6. Start with you and take care of your well-being
The best way to deal with this situation is to stay positive .
“ Even though you are involved 24/7 you have to take time for yourself, even if it is small. Keep your autoimmune system strong by exercising. In the end, the family will see your behavior and attitude, and will imitate it, “says Verónica.
7. Create a gratitude journal
Neuroscience has proven that practicing kindness and gratitude are good ways to feel closer and happier, shares the expert. “You can start a gratitude journal, that each member of the family thanks a day for something small or large, to stay motivated.”
Finally, the co-founder of Parenting Global recommends staying informed by reliable sources to minimize the stress caused by the uncertainty of this virus.