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Do you want advice? Search for mirrors’

May 23, 2020

Identify people you trust to be honest with you and help you focus on what’s important.

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Do you want advice? Search for mirrors’
Do you want advice? Search for mirrors’


Just as mirrors allow you to see your true appearance, other people in your life can help you see beyond your assumptions and blind spots. No matter how confident you are of your own abilities, there will come a time when you don’t know what the next step is. In this situation, it is important to have someone to help you stay focused and remind you what is really important to you and your company.

First, ask yourself: Are there people in your life who are completely free to honestly tell you what they see (even if it’s ugly or uncomfortable)? This type of relationship is not easy to maintain, as it must be people who respect you and who you trust and who are willing to express your concerns about your well-being and not just about yours. However, if you identify some people who can play this role, you can increase your confidence.

These simple keys will help you implement this procedure:

Find your mirrors. Find people you meet regularly throughout the day and with whom there is trust and mutual respect. Ideally, they are people who are part of your team. Although you see them often, they can perform this role (like your partner, partner, or family member). It is also recommended that you take on the same role for them.

Tell them what to see. You can ask the “mirrors” of your life to rate questions about how well you live your ethics and values. For example, if you want to bring energy into the work area, you can determine the times when you depress or spread negative feelings. They can also motivate you in areas where you meet your standards.

At this point it is very important that you share your goals and ambitions with them and ask them to watch your behavior around them every week. When you know someone is watching to see that you are really acting, long-term projects stop collecting dust.

Set a regular connection time. In your calendar, define a time (preferably regularly) to meet with your “mirror” and talk to him about the work process, discuss their observations and motivate each other to do their best.

This gives you a sense of urgency to deal with the most important issues and find ways to do your job better. I recommend meeting with this person at least once a week. Make sure you’ve done your homework so you know exactly what to ask. Don’t waste each other’s time preparing for the meeting.

Be honest. Regardless of what you expect from your mirrors, make sure they feel completely free to talk to you about them. You need to be able to highlight potential problems before they are harmful, especially if they are things you ignore.

You must be ready to listen to the truth even if it bothers you. Nobody wins if the truth is modeled to make it easier to digest. direct and aggressive honesty is the balm that heals evasion.

Adjust it regularly. The goal is to have someone to help you focus on what’s important to you. However, this focus is likely to change from season to season. Update your mentors regularly so they know what to look for. Your mirrors can show you where you fail, where you miss out and where you succeed.

A mirror in your life can help you follow your intuition and keep your focus, time and energy in the right place.