The following is an excerpt from Napoleon Hills Success Masters book. You can order it from Amazon.
To the achieve your goals You need to take risks, develop constructive routines, and take the time to listen, learn and reflect. The prospect of doing one of these Adjustments to your life are empowering… until your mind begins to navigate through negative thoughts.
A cascade of negative thoughts can lead to negative results: inaction. Retreat. Flight. Bad habits. By reflecting negatively about what you will achieve, you are making a prophecy that you must fulfill yourself.
The next time you think of a variation on this, try one of these 8 strategies to get out of the mud and get on with the mission you have set out to do.
1. What you say to yourself: “I don’t know when or how I’ll achieve this”
What to think or do: Set a schedule.
Take time each day or week to work on your goal and stick to your plan. To do this, create a place on your calendar and treat it like something immobile, like it is a job. Eventually you will have formed this new positive habit.
2. What you say to yourself: “I don’t feel like it”
What to think or do: “Hesitate with a purpose.”
Let the moments when you don’t want to do anything work for you. Find other ways to be productive that will not only help you scratch off your to-do list, but will also help recharge your personal and professional batteries. Fill your time with productive tasks that will indirectly help you achieve your goal.
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3. What you say to yourself: “I will never achieve my goal”
What to think or do: Say the opposite.
Suppose you had a setback in your quest for your goal. Your thoughts keep getting more and more negative, maybe until you convince yourself of something completely wrong, like “you are not worth it” or “you will never get there”.
Right now, your lack of success in achieving your goals does not reflect your character. The fact that you had this goal in the first place shows that you have an idea of how to get better and how to give something good to the world. Now you have to do it, and the biggest obstacle on your way can be yourself and that little inner voice telling you that something is wrong with you or that you cannot do it.
4. What you say to yourself: “I’m a mess”
What to think or do: Organize the little details in your life to prepare for your big goal.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by small things like your appearance, the clutter in your inbox, or the tasks you’ve delegated. A lack of organization in the small aspects of your personal life can prevent you from believing that you are ready to do something more important.
Prepare as much as you can. That way, you can focus on the big problems.
5. What you say to yourself: “This other person has already achieved my goal and made it look very easy. I will never be as good as him or her. “
What to think or do: Talk to this person and ask for advice.
Thinking about someone else’s success can become toxic. You can put this person on a pedestal thinking that they are superhuman or that they never doubted themselves. In the end, you might get sick of them jealously until you no longer appreciate yourself or your potential.
You shouldn’t be ashamed to ask for help from someone you feel inferior to. The other may have similar thoughts, and you have much to teach too.
6. What to say to yourself: “I don’t feel like I’m making any progress”
What to Think or Do: Find someone to hold you accountable.
Taking on a new challenge can discourage you from magically changing your life overnight. You work very hard and don’t feel like you’re getting anywhere. You begin to doubt whether it is worth the effort.
To make sure you don’t give up on your goal, set up a support system, person, or group of people to hold you accountable. It could be someone in your family, a Facebook friend, or a life coach. You will feel less lonely along the way and you will have someone to report back to, someone to make sure you do what you say and best of all, someone to notice and remind you how much progress you have made.
7. What you say to yourself: “I am overwhelmed”
What to think or do: Write a journal.
Achieving goals requires concentration. You have to prepare for what you need to do to achieve your goal, but you cannot shut out the world or always resist the temptation to outdo yourself. If there are too many thoughts around your head, including negative ones, it can be helpful to write them down.
Write a thing or two every day, whether you want to work towards something or a thought that you had. There is no structure or plan for what you write. Just write down your thoughts.
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Writing also gives you the opportunity to reflect. From time to time you can reread your notes to relive certain thoughts, get some thoughts, and remind yourself of the things that were done right.
8. What you say to yourself: “I am afraid to face the changes that will come when I reach my goal.”
What to think or do: It’s not a matter of life or death.
Think about the most intimidating thing you have ever faced or the most dangerous situation you have ever had to get out of. And realize that you made it, you survived.
Now think about your goal and analyze which aspect of the achievement of that goal scares you the most. Compare it to what you have already experienced. Finally, you should know that feeling fearful is natural. Humans are creatures of habit, but we also tend to beat ourselves up too much. And you will continue to do so if you are not doing what you want to achieve.