“If you want other people to like you, you have to make them feel good,” says Schäfer. “You have to remove the focus from your conversation and focus it on the person you’re talking to.”
There are several ways to do this.
“Appreciation, appreciation, appreciation, direct eye contact, a compliment to ask for advice – all of these are ways to make the other person feel good,” says Lederman.
Use sensitive sentences in conversations. For example, if someone looks happy, say something like, “It looks like you have a great day,” says Scafer. If the person replies, “I just made a deal,” you can reply with something like, “You must have worked really hard to get it.” He or she will feel great and these feelings will in turn be reflected in you. Avoid flattery as this puts people on the defensive.