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Do you have as much confidence in yourself as you want? Without a doubt, it’s a trick question, because at some point we all feel very confident and sometimes we fall apart.
Confidence enables you to rely on the various functional aspects of life. It is a part of your inner spirit that forms the basis for the emotional balance in order to better master tasks and challenges and to improve yourself permanently.
Lack of trust limits potential as it creates a wall between who you are and what you want to be. In this void of lack of positive self-awareness, you lose because you allow other types of restrictive stimuli to take their place.
For example, if you grew up in an oppressive environment, failed to overcome submission, childhood lack of value, loss and agony, it is possible that trust is not adequately present.
The good news is that self-confidence based on self-confidence is a skill. and as such it can be trained and developed.
Benefits of trusting yourself
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Greater decision-making autonomy
Feeling of enjoyment
Improve satisfaction with who you are and what you can achieve
You face critical problems
Reduce doubts about your potential
Help bring your lifestyle from reality to what you want
The origin lies in an emotion
The emotion of fear it is transverse to lack of trust. It is possible for your worth to decrease so much in the face of certain internal or external stimuli that you feel small and think that you are unable to face them.
However, fear can be a motor that drives you beyond this invisible barrier to project yourself beyond the limits.
The key is to take action. Humans permanently invigorate the reptilian instinct to cope with situations or to flee from them: in the event of a lack of security and self-confidence, the latter prevails and uses all possible excuses and considerations that limit your expansion beyond the known or usual area.
Feeling afraid is normal: The challenge arises when you limit and restrict all types of deployment and development.
The source of anxiety in the absence of self-confidence can be total (you feel totally neglected to make decisions, however minimal they may be) or partial (lack of security is the case in certain situations or stimuli).
In general, there are two major drivers for this limitation:
1. The fear of failure
People with the greatest inner indecision are the ones who fantasize negatively most of the time. Since fear is an internal construction of a seemingly real external expectation (in your head), it is possible to deconstruct it in order to turn it into something useful that will propel you forward. We have around 12,000 internal dialogues a day when we talk to ourselves. First, observe this self-talk to see what kind of words you are saying to yourself and how confidently you are paying attention to them and acting accordingly.
In general, the fear of failure feels like a very strong emotion that blocks, stagnates, and restricts all of your actions. So it is possible to change the chains of belief that you have in you in order to change them against other more functional ones in order to achieve your goals.
2. Recurring negative thoughts
We have about 60,000 thoughts a day; of these, there are people who think negatively 90% of the day; So you can imagine what result you will get in your life.
One of the biggest problems is those error warnings you say internally, which leads to self-fulfilling prophecy. That is, through the emotions and feelings of your subconscious, you bring what you think into reality and just lose there.
It is possible to disarm this unconscious cognitive tendency to almost always think negatively in order to attain a certain functional neutrality, so that you also increase your potential, instead of limiting it.
5 resources to be a confident person
To have more confidence in yourself, here is a toolbox that you can practice on a daily basis. They don’t last too long and you will see results if you do this continuously:
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The upright posture and the back of the shoulders are known as the superhero or heroine pose. In fact, you can find her in all cartoons and comics with this “superpower”. At Harvard University they experimented with 42 participants. One group was asked to hold this triumphant pose for two minutes, and another a defeated pose (shoulders slumped, slapped, forward, head down). The result showed that those with the upright posture showed feelings of power, strength, enthusiasm, and self-confidence, while the other group reported depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and poor performance.
Tools: Before a stressful or difficult situation, do the superhero or heroine for 3 minutes, breathe slowly and fill your full capacity with air. It also works when you open your arms like you’re winning a marathon and jumping repetitive about ten times like you’re partying. Straighten your spine with your arms under the shower. and happily sing or whistle at any time wherever possible.
2. Make decisions
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A decisive factor for self-confidence is the ability to make decisions. A lot of people find this difficult to achieve because it comes with a risk: things may or may not go so well.
Tools: It starts with small decisions until you have the skills to choose the best options. preventing others from voting for you (e.g. dining in a restaurant); analyze, but not delay, the decision called “paralysis by analysis”; Think about the worst that can happen in relation to your decision (in general, the dire consequences are more the product of fantasy than reality).
3. Recognize your uncertainty buttons and overcome them
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We all have some internal keys that make us particularly insecure when activated. If we can see them, we have overcome these invisible barriers that hinder our security.
Tools: works with a psychotherapist in very limited cases, as it will be necessary to dive into the unconscious. In other situations, a skilled neurolinguistic programming coach or expert can help clear and restore the broken cycle of internal uncertainty to aid you in your strengths.
4. Focus on the successes rather than the failures of your life
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Insecure people feel that they are focusing too much on failures or catastrophic situations.
Tools: make a daily list of small achievements (there are always those); detects advances in minimal aspects to strengthen the brain’s reward center – the place of self-awareness; Work on your limiting mental models to identify beliefs and paradigms that may be limiting your safety.
5.Revaluate the stress that is lowering your confidence:
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Undoubtedly, lack of self-confidence is a source of stress. It is possible that you feel diminished in life situations and that the lack of assertiveness to act occurs.
Tools: With overwhelming words deceiving your brain, knowing you need to be scared (even if it seems strange, speak to it and say directly: “I know it’s you, fear, that tries to stop me. You won’t get it this time. “). When you do it and say words about it, that emotion loses its strength. Work with affirmations: they are a great tool to move forward (examples: “I can”, “I am valuable and I have successfully overcome this and every situation that arises”, “I love and accept myself as I am”). Change the words that describe the emotions you are feeling: For example, instead of saying, “I’m panicking about this meeting with my boss “ say powerfully and inwardly: “I’m really excited to meet my boss and I will use this experience to learn and move forward.”. These formulas change the biochemistry of your body and therefore the result you will get.