If you try too hard to adapt, you will lose part of yourself.
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This article has been translated from our English edition.
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- Fitting is overrated. Point.
We are all born with this innate desire to be accepted. Fit in. The problem is … if you try too hard you lose part of yourself. And what the world needs most is you: brave, apologetic, thoughtful, creative, to be surprised.
Standing out is lonely. It’s uncomfortable. Its scary. But you have to be different to make a difference. I’ve never been someone who fits in so easily. I’ve always pushed the envelope, taken risks and done everything I wanted.
When I was in elementary school, I was afraid to adjust. But trying to be like everyone else made me unhappy. He wasn’t like everyone else. Instead of playing with dolls and drinking tea, she wanted to ride a unicycle and walk on stilts. Instead of doing sports, he wanted to ride a horse. But riding lessons were expensive and my parents could only afford two hours a month. Two lessons a month would not be enough for someone trying to convert. So I signed a contract with the stable manager to work through the additional lessons. Seven hours of cleaning work correspond to one lesson. It was hard work, but I was more than happy to do it so I could be with horses and with other people who loved them too.
As it turns out, the things that have stopped me most from adapting are my willingness to be different, like different things, to work hard and take risks, my relentless optimism and my refusal to take a no for an answer – some of the same characteristics that I have. that I attribute my success Here are five reasons why fitting is overrated:
1. Trying to adapt is not healthy for you
Trying to be someone you are not can make you unhappy, add unnecessary stress to your life, and adversely affect your mental, spiritual, and physical health. It is really exhausting. I work at 100 percent frequency (I know it’s high), but when I try to get it down to 93 percent I feel bad. I am tired. Today I make sure that I spend time with people who are 100 percent attracted to my authentic self.
2. Trying to adapt suppresses creativity
Strict rules and regulations are not good for creativity. There is neither judgment nor shame. Give yourself the space to create something new instead of trying to be what everyone expects you to be. You don’t have to be in front and in the middle to be valuable. For example, the person in a play would not be on the stage without a screenwriter, director, stage manager or costume designer. There are many valuable parts in doing a job that is just as creative. The same in sports and in business. The best teams I’ve belonged to are the ones with the greatest diversity.
3. Trying to adapt is preventing you from reaching your full potential
Once you start living your life for yourself instead of other people, amazing things happen. Invest your energy into becoming the best possible version of yourself instead of trying to get others’ approval. Your differences are your strengths and what makes you powerful.
4. Trying to adapt is not getting you what you really want
Is there a gap between what you really want and what your parents, friends, and co-workers think you should want? What is your inner voice saying Once you stop trying so hard to adapt, you can start pursuing the things that matter most to you (not everyone else). Because what success means to you is entirely up to you.
5. Trying to adapt prevents you from really belonging
It’s a bit of a contradiction, but when you stop trying so hard to adjust, you can let her know your real self and have more meaningful relationships. If you allow yourself to be true to yourself, you will attract people with similar interests and make new friends.
If you’ve always found it difficult to fit in with the crowd, this is a sign that you should never have. Have the courage to stand out, embrace your talents and strengths, and change things; You and the rest of the world will be much better off.