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Our days are full of decisions. Most are worldly choices, but others are important enough that they can haunt us for the rest of our lives.
A Columbia University study found that we make around 70 important decisions every day. This large number of elections It can lead to fatigue, so our gray matter can get tired (like any other muscle).
On the other hand, a recent analysis by the University of Texas found that even when our brains aren’t tired, they can make it difficult to make good decisions. By making a decision rather than referring to the knowledge we have gathered, our brains focus on certain detailed memories.
For example, if you’re buying a new car and want to decide whether to have leather seats, your brain can focus on memories of the wonderful smell and feel of the seats in your brother’s sports car. All of this instead of thinking that maybe it is an expense that you cannot do.
Some of these decisions are minor (e.g. what to eat, what path to take), while others can determine the direction of our lives (e.g. what career to study to end a toxic relationship).
Bronnie Ware spent her career as a nurse for patients between three and twelve months. He always asked them what they regretted most and found that there were five who had repeated themselves. These are:
1. Make decisions based on what others think of you
When you do this, two things happen:
-You choose the wrong career: There are millions of people who graduate in something they weren’t really interested in. Whether you’re seeking parenting approval or more interested in prestige than passion, these types of decisions will haunt you forever.
-You are not true to your values: If you care too much about what your boss thinks of you, how much money your wife needs to be happy, or how bad you look when you fail, you are giving away who you really are. Your intense interest in looking good keeps you from choosing the things that make you happy.
The best way not to get into this mistake is to realize that other people’s opinions are just that: opinions. No matter how bad a person is, at the end of the day, it’s just a prospect. Your real worth comes out of you.
2. Work too hard
Working hard is a great way to shape the world, learn, grow, feel fulfilled, and even find happiness. The problem arises when it comes at the expense of the people who are important in your life. Ironically, we tend to work hard just to give the best to the people we love without realizing that they value our company more. The key is to find the balance between what you love and being with the people you love. Otherwise, one day you will turn your gaze and find that the best years of your life are already over.
3. Don’t say what you feel
Many of us are taught from childhood that emotions are dangerous and that they need to be bottled and controlled. This works from time to time, but turning off anything you’re feeling just builds up the tension until it explodes. The best thing you can do is be honest about what you are experiencing. It may be difficult at first, but it will force you to be honest and transparent.
For example, if you feel that you are not getting enough money from your job, schedule a meeting with your boss and explain why you should get a better salary. He can agree with you and let you know whether or not to talk to you and tell you where you need to improve. On the other hand, if you do not say anything, you will leave feelings stagnant, which hinders your growth (and inner peace).
4. Lose contact with friends
When the routine catches up with you, it’s easy to lose sight of people you don’t see that often. Relationships with old friends are one of the first things to hit when we’re busy. This is unfortunate as meeting friends is a great way to deal with stress. Close friends give you energy, perspective, and a sense of belonging.
5. Don’t allow yourself to be happy
When your life comes to an end, all of the difficulties you have faced suddenly seem trivial compared to the good times. This is because you realize that we suffer many, many times for pleasure. Unfortunately, we only notice this when it’s too late. Pain is inevitable from time to time, but we are in control of how we respond to grief (and how we can experience joy).
Learning to laugh, smile, and just be happy (especially when we’re stressed out) can be difficult, but it’s worth it.
In summary …
Some choices have ramifications that can last a lifetime. Most of these decisions are made on a daily basis and require focus and perspective to avoid being followed.