Spreading some things about your life could help you build relationships, but in the long run, it will hurt you more than you think.
The opinions expressed by employees are personal.
You cannot build a solid professional network if you don't open up to your colleagues. However, doing so can be complicated, as revealing the wrong things could have a devastating effect on your career.
Sharing certain aspects of your life properly can be an art. Spreading some things may help you build relationships, but in the long term it will hurt you more than you think. The trick is to control yourself before crossing that line, because once you share something, there is no turning back.
The following list contains the 12 most common things that people reveal in their work environment, and that often put their career in the wrong direction.
1. Who hate their job
The last thing someone wants to hear at work is another person complaining about how much he hates his job. If you do, people will label you as a negative person, and not as someone willing to. This lowers the morale of the group. The bosses quickly realize who the people who lower collective morale are, and they know that there is always some enthusiastic replacement waiting around the corner.
2. Who think someone is incompetent
There will always be incompetent people in the workplace, and most likely everyone knows who they are. If you don't have the power to help them improve or fire them, then you have nothing to gain by disclosing how inexperienced they are. To say that someone else is incompetent could be counterproductive, because it makes you look like someone insecure . Inevitably, your callousness will turn against you in the form of negative opinions from your coworkers.
3. How much money they earn
Your parents may die of wanting to know how much your monthly income amounts to, but in the workplace, this information only attracts negativity. It is impossible to allocate wages with perfect equity, and revealing yours to your peers is a direct measure of comparison. As soon as others know how much you earn, everything you do in your work will be compared to your income. Exchanging salary figures with a work colleague may sound tempting, but at the time you do, they will never look the same way again.
4. Your political and religious beliefs
The political and religious beliefs of people are closely linked with their personalities, but not necessarily with their work performance. Disagreeing with someone else's views could alter people's perception of you. Also, confronting the fundamental values of a person is one of the most insulting things you can do.
People address issues related to politics and religion differently, but affirming your values could alienate some as well as intrigue others. It only takes a disapproving look to start a conflict.
We all build our lives around our ideals and beliefs, and getting into this field can be risky. Be willing to listen to others without imposing your opinion. After all, challenging your views will not make you change your mind, but it will create animosity.
5. What they do on Facebook
Believe us: the last thing your boss wants to see when connecting to Facebook are photos of you taking shots of tequila in a bar. There are too many ways to seem inappropriate on Facebook and leave a bad impression; It could be the way you dress, who you interact with, what you are doing or even the comments of your friends. These are the “little” things that could cast the shadow of a doubt in the minds of your boss or your colleagues just when contemplating you for an important task or considering ascending.
Trying to self-censor in social networks is difficult. To save you the problem, just don't add your co-workers; make LinkedIn your professional social network, and leave Facebook for the rest.
6. What they do in the bedroom
Whether your sex life is extraordinary or simply does not exist, this information has no place at work. Your comments about it could start a couple of laughs, but more than anything, they will bother and even offend more than one. Crossing this line will give you a bad reputation instantly.
7. What they think someone else does in the bedroom
We bet you that 111 percent of the people who work with you don't want to know that you think they are tigers in bed. There is no safer way to give someone chills than to let them know that their love life has entered your brain. From speculating about the sexual orientation of a colleague to making a relatively comment on the air, like “Oh, what I would give for being newly married again” plants a permanent seed in the minds of many people. Your thoughts are yours. You are free to think what you want about others, but please keep it to yourself.
8. Who aspire to have someone else's position
Announcing your work ambitions to your colleagues when they come into direct conflict with the interests of another person will make you seem selfish and indifferent, not only to the people around you, but to the company as a whole. Exceptional employees want the entire team to succeed, and not just them. Beyond your real motivations, announcing your selfish goal will not help you achieve it.
9. How wild they used to be in college
Your past can say a lot about you. Just because you did something extravagant or stupid 20 years ago, does not mean that people will believe that you have developed an impeccable trial since then. Some behaviors that could be considered common in a conversation with friends (taking too much, stealing something small, driving while intoxicated, etc.) could show your colleagues that you have very little judgment and don't know where to draw a line. Many presidents have been elected despite their past indiscretions, but unless you have a team of people controlling your image, you should keep your secrets past for you.
10. How much they like to drink
You might think that talking about how drunk you put on the weekend is not related to their perception of you at work. After all, if you're good at your job, you're good at your job … right? Unfortunately not. Sharing your party stories will not make people see you as a fun person; on the contrary, they will see you as unpredictable, immature and devoid of judgment . Too many people have negative opinions about alcohol and drugs so that you reveal everywhere how much you enjoy them.
11. An offensive joke
If we can learn something from celebrities, it is to be careful what we say and to whom we say it. Offensive jokes can make other people feel bad, and make you look terrible. They are also much less funny than witty jokes.
A joke crosses the line every time you have to turn around to know if it is appropriate to tell it. If there is someone who might be offended, it is best not to do it. You never know what people know, or what experiences they have lived that could hurt their feelings.
12. Who are looking for a job
When I was a child, I told my baseball coach that I would stop playing in two weeks. The next two weeks, I found myself sitting on the bench. Everything got worse after those two weeks, when I decided to stay and became “the boy who didn't even want to be there.” I was devastated, but I assumed my fault: I told him what my decision was ahead of time.
The same happens when you tell people that you are looking for a job. Once you reveal that you are thinking about leaving, you suddenly become a waste of time for everyone. There is also the possibility that your search will not be successful, so it is better to wait until you have found a position before telling someone. Otherwise, you could end up sitting on the bench.