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I was told that I am something passive-aggressive. And I really didn’t understand until I started evaluating some of the “destructive” words I used.
If you’ve ever been exposed to such an act, you will know that this will never be the best way to resolve a conflict.
The fact of being passive-aggressive It is frustrating for both parties because others are not only unproductive, but also stop trusting you in your workplace and in your relationship.
After allowing my behavior to destroy some of my relationships, I decided to do something about it.
Here are 12 passive-aggressive phrases – and their real meaning – that you can use to fight more productively.
It was my best friend who made me realize the reality of this sentence. “Realize that when someone tells you that everything is” OK “, the opposite turns out.
Signe Whitson states Psychology today that a “passive-aggressive” person uses sentences of this kind to express their anger (indirectly) and to hamper any emotional communication.
2. “Don’t worry”
You are actually worried. in the Thought catalogChristine Schönwald claimed that this sentence translates into:
“I say you don’t have to worry, but what I really want to say is ‘fuck you’, but I won’t say it until I explode against you.”
3. “If you really want it …”
That may sound “reassuring” at first, but don’t kid yourself. If you say that, you are evasive. You may appear to agree to the plan, but there is no awe in you. This would only indicate that you don’t want the other person to be upset and that you don’t know how to communicate those feelings.
4. “Thank you in advance”
Another sentence that may seem innocent, but what it really means is that you are waiting for people to do what you want, and well, this can hurt your relationship with the person.
5. “I was surprised / confused …”
When you hear or read this, you may find that the person disguises criticism or is simply unhappy not to be at the forefront.
Jennifer Winter mentioned in The muse that he had a partner who often used this type of phrase to “mitigate his criticism”. This caused Winter to ignore all of his comments.
6. “I’m not angry”
This was the one that destroyed my relationship with my ex-wife. I’ve never expressed how I really felt, now I’ve learned to raise my voice and be honest.
The same thing happens at work: yes, the person is angry even if they say no.
When I use this sentence, I feel that I am not being honest, avoid it and learn to express your feelings.
I once had a discussion with a friend about this word in a text message. When I read “whatever”, I got so angry that I knew he was interested and that he only said it so as not to continue the discussion.
So you know that using this resource will only make you both angrier.
8. “So …?”
How just one word can change the whole context, don’t you think? Perhaps it is because of a somewhat annoying comment that follows.
So … did you get my email?
It goes without saying that you’re a little annoyed that they didn’t answer you, and that’s a problem of honesty.
If you only say that you should say, the conversation becomes uncomfortable because it is understood that the person does not know how to start. When I hear someone use it and there is an uncomfortable pause, I have an irresistible desire to say, “Then … what?” To get out of this uncomfortable moment.
9. “I was wondering if …”
This sentence is perceived when the person makes a less sensible request. It’s like
“I was wondering if … would you be in town tomorrow and could you pick my brother up from the subway station?”
Even if you are in the city, the train station can be very far from your location. In other words, that person knows they shouldn’t ask you for the favor, but they do anyway.
Be careful though! Also keep in mind that people can use these words to invite you anywhere.
10. “I was just kidding”
Sarcasm is one of the passive-aggressive manifestations. If that person made a comment that made you sad and actually made you sad, it wasn’t a joke. He really wanted to say what he said and tried to “hide his feelings”.
11. “Hopefully it’s worth it”
This sentence couldn’t be more obvious. The person who tells you doesn’t want you to do something, but it is a “warning” that you will do it anyway. Instead of expressing their real concern, they will leave this passive-aggressive message to you until it becomes the real problem.
In most cases, this sentence cannot be harmful, but in some cases it can also be used to show that someone was wrong in something like, “We need to discuss your performance today, comments?”
Comments on this article? What other sentences do you think are passive aggressive? I’m not angry, just tell me.