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There are certain things that should never be said at work. sentences that has a special power: to make you look bad, even if what you say is right. And worst of all, once you’ve said it, there is no way to withdraw it.
I’m not talking about mistakes in vocabulary or bad jokes or even politically incorrect things because those aren’t the only ways to look bad.
Usually the things that hurt us the most are the subtlest that make us seem incompetent and insecure.
No matter how talented you are or what you’ve accomplished, there are certain phrases that can do it Immediately change the way others perceive youAnd judge you to live forever in the shadows They are sentences so laden with negative implications that they can end yours Career.
How many of these racial killer phrases have you heard in your office lately?
1. “It’s not fair”
Everyone knows life isn’t fair, and when you say something else, you think that’s what makes you seem immature and naive.
If you don’t want to look bad, you need to stick to the facts, be constructive, and leave your interpretations out of play. For example, you could say, “I saw that you assigned Ana a project that I wanted to work on. Can you tell me what factors you considered in making that decision? I would like to know why I didn’t have to do this to make this better and that you can consider me for the next one. “
2. “That’s how we’ve always done it”
The changes that result from new technologies happen so quickly that there are processes that are new today and will be out of date in six months. When you say you’ve always done things this way, not only will you appear lazy and reluctant to change, but your boss will also wonder why you’ve never tried to improve things. If you do things the way they’ve always been done, surely there is a better way to do them.
3. “No problem”
If you say this phrase when someone asks you to do something, or when you like them because you did something, it means that their request should have been a problem. This makes people feel like an imposition.
Ideally, show people that you enjoy doing your job. Say something like “Nice to do it” or “We’ll be happy to find out.” It’s a very subtle difference, but it has a huge impact on people.
4. “This may be a stupid idea” or “I’m going to ask a stupid question”
These hyperpassive sentences instantly destroy your credibility. Even if you come up with a wonderful idea later, it suggests that you have no confidence in yourself, which causes people around you to lose their trust in you.
Don’t be your worst critic. If you don’t trust what you’re saying, no one else will. And if you don’t know something, you can say, “At this moment I have no information, but I will do some research and come back to you.”
5. “I’ll do it now”
Saying what you can do in a minute will worsen your skills and give the impression that you are in a hurry. Don’t say it unless you can literally complete this task in less than 60 seconds. You can say it won’t take too long or that you will deliver it asap, but don’t make it seem like it will take you less time than it actually takes.
6. “I’ll try”
The word “try” sounds tentative and suggests that you do not trust your ability to get things done. Take responsibility for your abilities, own what you can do. When they ask you to do something, make a commitment to do something or offer an alternative, but don’t say you will try because it sounds like you are not trying too hard.
7. “Such a person is lazy / incompetent / idiotic”
It can’t get good out of making a negative comment on a partner, even if what you’re saying is correct, chances are other people already know so you don’t need to point it out. And if you’re wrong, then you are the one who looks like an idiot.
There will always be rude or incompetent people in all jobs, and most likely everyone has identified them. If you cannot help them improve and it is not your decision to keep them with the company, then you will gain nothing by showing their ineptitude by creating the impression that you are looking for faults in others to make up for your own mistakes. And this lack of sensitivity will work against you because your co-workers form negative opinions about you.
8. “That doesn’t suit me”
This phrase makes others think that you are only willing to put a minimum of hassle on your salary, which is quite negative if you want to keep your job and grow within the company.
If your boss asks you to do something that is not part of your job (as long as it is legal and moral), your best bet is to do it and do it well. You can then speak to your boss and discuss your responsibilities or job descriptions to see if you need to add new ones (and discuss a possible increase). In doing this, you see yourself as enthusiastic and motivated, willing and cooperative, rather than a tantrum or moody person. It will also help you build a better relationship with your boss in the long run.
9. “It’s not my fault”
It is never a good idea to blame someone else. To take responsibility. If you had something to do, however minimal, you are responsible for it. If not, offer an objective and dispassionate explanation of what happened. Stick to the facts and let your boss and coworkers draw their own conclusions about who is to blame.
The moment you point out guilt is the moment people start to perceive you as a person who doesn’t know how to take care of their responsibilities, and this makes people nervous. There will be those who will avoid working with you and others will blame you every time something goes wrong.
10. “I can’t”
In general, people don’t like to hear that you can’t because they understand you don’t want to. When you say “you can’t” it means you are not ready to do whatever it takes for the job to take place.
If you really can’t do something because you don’t have the skills, offer an alternative. Instead of saying you can’t, say what you can do. For example, instead of saying, “I can’t stay later,” say, “I can be there earlier tomorrow, does this work for you?” Or instead of saying “I can’t get this report out”, “I still don’t know how to do this analysis, is there anyone who can teach me to do it myself next time?”
11. “I hate this job”
The last thing you want to hear in the office is someone complaining about how much they hates their job. This marks you as a negative person and lowers group morale. Bosses are quick to see who are the negative elements affecting their teams’ morale, and they know that there are increasingly enthusiastic people out there who could replace them.
In summary …
There are many benefits to removing these sentences from your vocabulary. These phrases tend to stay with us much like fillers, so you need to be very careful to recognize them and avoid them until you get into the habit of not saying them.
A version of this article first appeared on TalentSmart.com.