A confident person is attracted to more opportunities than someone who isn’t. Those who trust themselves will know their abilities and explain them, while those who are not will have so many fears that they will prevent them from demonstrating their virtues.
You can feel safe open many doors for usFrom looking for a job to carrying out a project without fear of failure. Even in the most difficult times, security helps us get back on our feet and carry out successful projects.
I know from experience that when things don’t seem to be going very well, thinking positively about our abilities helps us understand that when something goes wrong it is not because of lack of ability, but because of what life is about: venture, fail, stand up and win. All entrepreneurs fail at some point. Not being afraid of failure is a hallmark of confident people.
How do I become safe people?
While it is not an easy task for many, there are a few very simple steps we can take to become confident people. According to the French psychologist Émile Coué, if we repeat over and over, “I am a safe person,” we will believe in it and act as such because the mind is able to issue a preconditioned command when necessary. When we are safe, we will pass this feeling on to others, and in the end they will believe it too.
However, it is not enough just to believe that we are safe. We also have to work with our image so that it passes this security on to others. According to various studies, it is people who know how to project a correct image set faster than those who are not interested in the subject … and even tend to get better salaries.
These are some keys to projecting safety through your posture and image:
1st tone of voice. In the business world, proper tone of voice is key to instilling confidence. It’s important to be heard, but speaking too loudly can instill arrogance. Conversely, speaking very softly can cause you to lose credibility.
2. Diction. When it comes to having conversations with others, it is best to do so speak slowly. If words are not pronounced well, this can be an indicator of uncertainty. It will give the impression that we do not believe what we are saying and the listener will notice that the message is being lost.
3. Gestures. Gestures are an integral part of body language as they lead to endless misinterpretations. If we do not understand a subject, we can introduce it with gestures: if we open our eyes often, it is a sign that we do not understand that closing our lips with force transmits tension or that we are trying Be in control of us.
4. Smile. This is one of the most important elements of non-verbal communication. A natural smile conveys calm, self-confidence and the ability to socialize. Be careful: don’t smile all the time or you run the risk of transmitting falsehood.
5. Greeting. When you arrive at a place, it is important to greet everyone in attendance, whether you know them or not. Come by, introduce yourself and offer them your hand.
6. Attitude. Sitting upright conveys trust. On the contrary, if you look to the floor or bow your shoulders, you look like a person who doesn’t believe in himself.
7. Went. Moderate your step. A person who walks very quickly can look desperate, anxious, or stressed out. A confident person walks straight ahead and at a good pace.
8. Kind of sitting. Sit up straight and avoid moving every two seconds. Moving your feet, hands, or constantly changing your mind conveys insecurity and nervousness.
9. Clothing. Make sure you wear clean clothes that fit you well and are suitable for the occasion. Avoid flashy accessories: you don’t want them to attract the attention of your interlocutors.
10. Look. When you speak to someone always look him in the eye. The same thing when someone else speaks to you. Avoid looking down on the ground or lost in space at any point.
Remember to always look for congruence between what you are and what you convey. The picture has to go hand in hand with the possessed skills, so it has to be learned to show this to others through the right use of the picture.
About the author:
Luigina Campos has more than 5 years of experience in personal and business image consulting. She is an active member of the International Association of Image Consultants and owner of the website A la moda con Luigina.